I’m a Bridesmaid, Now what?
Were you recently asked to be a bridesmaid in a friends upcoming wedding? Are you a bride thinking of asking someone to stand with you in your wedding? Below are some general bridesmaid roles they play throughout the wedding planning process as well as the big wedding day.
Study up on your duties, here – better yet, ask the newly engaged what they’d love for you to do. Planning a wedding is a ton of work! The more help you can offer the better.
Have your meetings in person .. with wine … ok, that part is optional. Let’s face it, emails and group chats can be sporadic and communication response times can vary. Everyone has one of those friends that either replies right away, or days later. Why not make a laid back in person meetings to sort things out more effectively?
Give your honest opinion (even when you don’t have one) – Sometimes we need to be validated but when it comes to a wedding, the decisions need to be the brides. You can offer your opinions when asked but don’t try to make the decisions for the bride. It’s her day. If she wants your honest opinion, please give it to her nicely. That's what friends are for. You want her to look and feel her best on the big day.
Throw great parties in her honour – planning and throwing an awesome bachelorette party should be on your agenda.
Be smart with picking out bridesmaid dresses. We already know the bride will have the final say in this but choosing a dress that you can wear again after the wedding makes a lot of sense.
Manage your schedule like a pro – staying organized and reliable takes a lot of pressure off of the bride. Keep track of what needs to be done and when.
Befriend the other bridesmaids – this might seem like an obvious one but sometimes there can be rivalry within the bridal party and this never ends well. Being asked to be apart of a bridal party is an honour and assurance of friendship. The more friends you can make, the more fun you will have.
Do not complain – The last thing the bride-to-be needs to worry about is trying to please her bridesmaids. Instead of telling her what you will or wont do, just suck it up! Yes, even if that means stuffing wedding invites or assembling party favours in the wee hours of the morning. Be a solid form of support.
Have you been a bridesmaid before? Do you have any other tips for ladies in this supportive role?